A book about a female character who takes control of her life in a world where women are treated like property

I’ve only seen like one or two TV shows and/or books where there is a female character who is treated like property initially (i.e. sold into marriage or slavery), but figures out how to take control of her life. I’m mostly thinking of Danaerys in A Song of Ice and Fire. Sometimes it’s frustrating to be a woman in this world, so I love this narrative because it’s so badass and inspiring. I want to read a book about such a character.

Bonus points if the book does not imply that women should fundamentally stop being women to gain control of their lives.