Books on each gender’s relationship to war (historically)

Looking for lit resources on women/men relation to war (historically/socially)

I’m based in Europe; in all the subreddits I’ve seen tons of conversations about “would you go to war if your country were affected”, of course addressing men. Invariably, the topic of gender equality and “why women usually stay behind” comes up. Here—and it makes my blood boil, although a lot of the time it’s just a statement of fact—comes up the perspective that of course to repopulate the lost population, women need to remain behind as with less men and more women you can repopulate more plentifully etc.

like women are cattle in (what I view as mostly men’s) the game of war.

I don’t want to have a debate about this here. It already makes my blood boil insanely. I’m actually looking for literary resources—both fiction and nonfiction, as in textbooks—that deal with how each gender’s relationship to war (historically, socially). I’m thinking of the only text I’ve read on this, Virginia Woolf’s Three Guineas, where she wrote on how war is a man’s business, women have historically not had a say in it (much) etc. I know that there have been plenty of women leaders too, queens and whatnot, that have dealt in slavery, war, all this kind of stuff.

I just would like to know more about this. Maybe even philosophical treatises on how maybe this is just human nature after all or how much biology contributes to that or civilisation or culture or whatever…

Whatever you can think of about this topic I’d love to read. Not confined to a specific geological location. Whatever is fine.

Thanks so much! 🙏