Is it hard to get any reading done? Do you have to set parameters around your reading time? Or, does your SO also read and you tend to read at the same time? Curious to hear from others if it’s hard to find the time undisturbed for reading. I know from experience that there are times when a SO can put some demands on your time and it’s hard to just carve out a big chunk of time to simply be alone with a book. It’s one of the benefits of living alone. If you want to spend a whole weekend on the couch with a book, no one is there trying to pull you away to go for a walk or to the movies. Reading is, of course, a very solitary activity but if your SO is also a reader that can be a big plus. What have your experiences been?
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My spouse reads as much as I do. We bonded over Wheel of Time fandom! And I read him my books. It’s the best marriage ever.
Well, I do most of my reading at times when I am already naturally separated from my spouse due to work etc. if we are both at home and don’t have other plans, then she is fine with me putting on headphones and tuning her out for a bit to read if that’s what I want. Idk, it’s all no big deal.
we’re long distance atm but i’ve lived with my lady multiple times.
my lady reads a lot too. sometimes we listen to audiobooks together. sometimes i read or listen to a book while she plays video games. i don’t need as much sleep as she does so i sometimes read before she wakes up, or after she goes to bed. if i know i’m going to have problems sleeping. she understands how important reading is to me and doesn’t give me any crap about it.
We both read separately but as a couple activity we take turns reading a book out loud to each other. It’s fun because we get to experience the book together and also do sidebar commentary lolol
my SO games and i read a book. sometimes i read during the day if i have a free few minutes and the chapter is short.
Never been an issue while living with my SO. We’re both introverted so understand the need to just be alone and recharge. And while he’s not into reading he is a gamer so if I want a weekend on the couch with books, he’s happy to have a weekend playing video games.
Wait, why would it be hard to get reading done while living with your significant other?
Relationships where both parties enjoy personal space and time do exist 🙂
We both read every night before we fall asleep. We also take breaks on the weekend and will find each other reading. He tends to also read in the morning before work. I often go to bed before he does and will read a couple of hours before I fall asleep. It’s a life long habit so we don’t know any differently. He’s 61 and I’m 54.
We both do separate things. I’ll read and he’ll watch a movie. As long as we’re next to each other, it’s okay.
My wife reads too, but typically not the same books. There is some overlap, but in general, we like different genres. So we often read at the same time, but not really together, and rarely the same book. (I also read much faster than her, so even if we start out reading the same book, that won’t be the case for very long.)
I go to bed first, and read before I fall asleep. It’s an unspoken boundary in our relationship that he doesn’t interrupt me during this time.
I read all the time , I don’t mind if the tv is on and he’s watching, I can read right beside him. Or I’ll go have a bath and read and then crawl into bed a bit earlier than him if I wanna be alone with my book . He never bugs me
It was never tough when it was just me and her, we’d just hang out on the couch together reading sometimes. It’s a lot harder with kids.