Hi everyone, I had a talk with my partner about how my insecurity and need for reassurance isn’t a problem but her not having a space to consistently and comfortably ask for reassurance herself and feeling like she does stuff wrong that I don’t even agree she’s doing wrong, but I make her feel that way when I am unsure about my feelings and get awkward/quiet in the moment. I’ve been working hard on this and have read Nonviolent Communication, The Four Arrangements, How to Do the Work and I’m a bit into The Body Keeps Score, but now I think I need something more specific. We both have CPTSD and struggle with insecurity. i am trying really hard to be forward and trust my feelings, but I have slipped up and I want to be the most cozy and inviting place in the world for her. I don’t know if this makes sense, but does anyone have any ideas? i wanna marry her bad one day and we have been through stuff that is mainly my issue but i want to be the best partner i can. I can clarify anything that needs clarifying.
by Double-Salamander736