I am looking for a book possibly on feminism, but directed towards men to help them understand women more.
For context (29F) my BF (28M) has had a falling out with one of his friends (26M). He talks about women in a pig headed ways (sexually) and in front of me. He sleeps around alot and sees nothing wrong with talking like this in front of me. Ive asked him not to on multiple occasions as it makes me feel like me and every other women in the world are just objects in his mind. He wants to apologize but doesn’t understand why or what specifically he says thats so offensive. He has hypocritical tendencies that he is blind to like talking about womens looks and rating them, i once said a man was ugly and he said “well we are not going to value someones worth on looks.” The irony in that after hearing him talk about womens looks and sleeping around for over an hour anyways..He talks about wanting to settle down, but talks very poorly of women in front of women.. he wants to buy me something like flowers to make it up to me for being disrespectful in my home. I told him id rather him read a book that may open his mind up to understanding women more and help him understand why the things he says are hurtful. I was wondering if any of you have any book recommendations? I understand he is still young and may outgrow this behaviour, he also may not but if at the very least he grows to understand the offence enough to leave that kind of talk for mens ears only i would be happy. My boyfriend also doesn’t like to hear it and has said it on mutiple occasions but he just doesn’t get it and explaining it doesnt seem to do the trick. This has been an issue with him with other friends and their girlfriends as well. Sorry for any grammatical errors im typing this on my phone. Some people may think this is just how guys are and that this shouldn’t be offensive but that isnt how i was raised and although i respect your opinion’s i would prefer not to be subjected to this behaviour in my own home and the best apology to me isnt meaningless gifts but an attempt at real change even if its just learning that, that sort of talk should be for men only. Sorry for the long post. I hope someone can make a recommendation.
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