Suggest me a book for a hopeless, lost, young man about to lose his mom to cancer

that’s really awful, so sorry. Dave Eggers published a book called a heartbreaking work of staggering genius about 25 years ago.

I don’t think there’s ever a death book that will perfectly match your own experience because you and your mom are unique. but Eggers was pretty honest about his and his siblings’ own experience, and perhaps that could be of some use to you.

I am so deeply sorry.

When you’re ready, some books on grief might be helpful. Ideas:

Grief is Love by Marisa Lee

Dancing at the Pity Party by Tyler Feder (graphic novel)

‘When Things Fall Apart’ Pema Chodron
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Maybe try Notes on Grief by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Really sorry for what y’all are going through. ❤️

Crying in H Mart.

Lincoln in the Bardo

Hi, i dont have a book, but i lost my father yesterday. It took a month for him to pass.

Please, try and get rest. I know its hard but you need to make sure you eat too.

Sending strength to you.

Reasons to Stay Alive and Comfort Book, both by Matt Haig.

It is never easy losing a loved one. Hope this helps. Stay strong.

The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller

A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis,
Under the Whispering Door by T.J. Klune,
His Dark Materials by Phillip Pullman

Being Mortal by Atul Gawande

I’m so, so, sorry.

If you want to feel and process grief, but also an element of escapism, I’d suggest Interview with the Vampire.
If you want pure escapism, I’d suggest N0S4A2

I don’t have a book suggestion but I just wanna say I’m sorry. My mom passed from cancer in 2018. I’m an only child too.

I don’t have a lot of words because I know nothing I say will really help. Just know you aren’t alone.

The Emperor of All Maladies will be very relevant to you.

It’s not a book, but I’d be more apt to recommend the Netflix show Midnight Gospel. The first several episodes are philosophical conversations about various topics, light/medium in nature. The last episode is the creator (Duncan Trussell) speaking with his actual mom who had stage 4 breast cancer. They basically talk about her impending death and how to grieve. Totally out of left field for the show, very heavy but I think it’s important for anyone whose experienced loss. My mom also died a few years ago, not from cancer, but I was 26 and it was too young to lose a parent.

I’m terribly sorry you’re going through this. After this, get off Reddit and spend time with your mom <3

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I lost my mom to cancer last year and it was hard to concentrate on anything but I reread The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran. It always brings me a lot of peace and hope, especially the section about death

Lots of love to you and your mom

I lost my mom in May from cancer. So far I’ve read When Breath Becomes Air which helped me see her fight – and defeat – from her own perspective. It was helpful without being too painful.

Please know, that you are giving your mother the kindest, gentlest, most wonderful gift, to be with her (she knows you are there), to ease her passage to the next world. Know that she wants you to be strong, and she wants you to be easy of heart. She will ALWAYS be with you in spirit. Her love will ALWAYS be by your side. It’s okay to be sad, it is part of life. But you are not hopeless, you are not lost, you are not broken, you are your mother’s spirit, continuing in this life.

Hold her hand. Sing to her. Read your mom’s favorite poems, or psalms, or prayers to her. Tell her your favorite jokes. Sing the songs she sang to you as a child. These are the moments in life where love is purest.

Wishing you peace and grace.

I want to recommend three things.

First, a website: [grief.com](https://grief.com) — started by someone who I actually know personally, who is the kindest, most loving man, and who offers many, many MANY ways to express and feel and understand your grief.

Second, one of the books written by the founder of that site: [https://grief.com/books-by-david-kessler/you-can-heal-your-heart-louise-hay-david-kessler/](https://grief.com/books-by-david-kessler/you-can-heal-your-heart-louise-hay-david-kessler/)

And lastly, a poem that gave me solace when I went through this with my mom:

**The Sailing Ship** –

by Bishop Charles Henry Brent

What is dying?

I am standing on the seashore.

A ship sails to the morning breeze and starts for the ocean.

She is an object and I stand watching her

Till at last she fades from the horizon,

And someone at my side says, “She is gone!” Gone where?

Gone from my sight, that is all;

She is just as large in the masts, hull and spars as she was when I

saw her,

And just as able to bear her load of living freight to its destination.

The diminished size and total loss of sight is in me, not in her;

And just at the moment when someone at my side says, “She is gone”,

There are others who are watching her coming,

And other voices take up a glad shout,

“There she comes” – and that is dying.

Pilgrim At Tinker Creek helped me through some hard times.

Not a book, but I believe the song Drops of Jupiter by Train was inspired by someone on the same situation. Might look it up.