I sometimes say a lot and I realised my words have no value because of how much I speak, I want to speak only when necessary and only say what is necessary. What book teaches me to be silent?
tl;dr: ask yourself (with everything you say): is it true? Is it helpful? Is the timing right? And speak only when all three conditions are met.
IndigoRuby on
Your words have value.
I do sometimes think about the saying that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason. I try to listen more.
Designer-Swan-3687 on
Your words are important and have value.
But a book that instantly came to mind with what you said is Speechless by Hannah Harrington
Goblyyn on
Ella Enchanted by Gail Carson Levine.
SomeGuysButt on
The question that helps me keep down idle chatter: “am I adding anything meaningful to this conversation?”
justicemike on
People like me need people like you. I am naturally very quiet, and the filter between my thoughts and my mouth is I think pretty overpowered. If it weren’t for gregarious chatterbox, I would have no friends! Just be yourself! Nothing wrong with a bit of self awareness though, we all have room to grow! Woodrow Call is a very stoic character who I relate to, from Lonesome Dove. And his counterpart, Gus McCrae, is verbose to the max, easily one of my favorite characters in all of literature. Maybe give that one a try, it holds up to the hype.
libationsnation on
your words have value. don’t sell that short
if you are looking for guidance on how to be more engaged in your communication
“you’re not listening”
“supercommunicators”
two books that offer tips for better conversation
PorchLove on
The Power of Now
alexmoyer30 on
The Bible. Especially proverbs and James 3
Dr_-G on
I’m not sure if I have a book for you, but i can recommend some daily silence. 30 minutes in the morning. Not really “meditation” but just a little bit to collect yourself for the day. Think through key speaking points, boundaries you don’t want to cross anymore, and how many words really need to be said.
I do it every day before work. I set boundaries for myself, and I think about what needs to be said as my workday goes on. It helps me stay focused on the objectives of the day.
As far as a good book that helped me when I was younger, Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance.
500CatsTypingStuff on
No. Do NOT be silent
Who is telling you that your words have no value?
They are trying to silence you and break your spirit
Don’t let them
Speak up as much as you want
You words have value
Your opinion has value
greblaksnew_auth on
Lolita
suneila on
Anne of Green Gables. At the beginning of the book, she is used to people telling her she talks too much, but like someone above said, she finds a friend/father figure who is very quiet and likes her talking. By the end of the book, she learns not to talk so much — not because she’s devaluing her own thoughts and opinions, but because she has found a balance and learned that some thoughts she would rather keep to herself.
e_wo_potash on
Eckhart Tolle- life changing in every way, including present moment silence.
UsernameForgotten100 on
Your words have value, but if you want to talk less than you do, read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
It pus the focus on the other person and asking questions to learn more about them.
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Firstly, your voice is yours, don’t give it up. It’s you.
Secondly, please see first suggestion.
Interesting request.
Buddhism teaches us to avoid idle chatter that has no real purpose. I can’t say I have a book req. regarding specifically this though.
Check this out if you want to hear a Buddhist take on the subject:
https://www.dhammatalks.org/books/Meditations10/Section0009.html
tl;dr: ask yourself (with everything you say): is it true? Is it helpful? Is the timing right? And speak only when all three conditions are met.
Your words have value.
I do sometimes think about the saying that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason. I try to listen more.
Your words are important and have value.
But a book that instantly came to mind with what you said is Speechless by Hannah Harrington
Ella Enchanted by Gail Carson Levine.
The question that helps me keep down idle chatter: “am I adding anything meaningful to this conversation?”
People like me need people like you. I am naturally very quiet, and the filter between my thoughts and my mouth is I think pretty overpowered. If it weren’t for gregarious chatterbox, I would have no friends! Just be yourself! Nothing wrong with a bit of self awareness though, we all have room to grow! Woodrow Call is a very stoic character who I relate to, from Lonesome Dove. And his counterpart, Gus McCrae, is verbose to the max, easily one of my favorite characters in all of literature. Maybe give that one a try, it holds up to the hype.
your words have value. don’t sell that short
if you are looking for guidance on how to be more engaged in your communication
“you’re not listening”
“supercommunicators”
two books that offer tips for better conversation
The Power of Now
The Bible. Especially proverbs and James 3
I’m not sure if I have a book for you, but i can recommend some daily silence. 30 minutes in the morning. Not really “meditation” but just a little bit to collect yourself for the day. Think through key speaking points, boundaries you don’t want to cross anymore, and how many words really need to be said.
I do it every day before work. I set boundaries for myself, and I think about what needs to be said as my workday goes on. It helps me stay focused on the objectives of the day.
As far as a good book that helped me when I was younger, Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance.
No. Do NOT be silent
Who is telling you that your words have no value?
They are trying to silence you and break your spirit
Don’t let them
Speak up as much as you want
You words have value
Your opinion has value
Lolita
Anne of Green Gables. At the beginning of the book, she is used to people telling her she talks too much, but like someone above said, she finds a friend/father figure who is very quiet and likes her talking. By the end of the book, she learns not to talk so much — not because she’s devaluing her own thoughts and opinions, but because she has found a balance and learned that some thoughts she would rather keep to herself.
Eckhart Tolle- life changing in every way, including present moment silence.
Your words have value, but if you want to talk less than you do, read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
It pus the focus on the other person and asking questions to learn more about them.