My husband asked me to post here as he doesn’t use social media. We have been struggling in our marriage. He is searching for self help/ introspective style books that are geared specifically towards men. He has already ordered: The 7 principles for making a marriage work, hold me tight, and getting the love you want. However he is also interested in additional self help books that will make him a better version of himself and therefore a better partner. He has been struggling with detachment when stressed, lack of connection in our marriage as well as in friendships, and feeling like he has lost a sense of self and desire over the years. He said he is struggling a lot with not having desire to do anything or make any decisions.
From my own perspective, I have been forced into the “masculine” role of the relationship- making all the decisions, plans, and basically carrying the whole mental load. I have basically become the initiator of everything in our life and I’m very burned out. For context we also have 1 child. Neither of us want this dynamic anymore but he is having trouble connecting to our lives/ his life and therefore feels ilequipped to be in a leadership – or even just a partnership- role. We have already read fair play and the 5 love languages and found them helpful but not necessarily groundbreaking for the issues he/we are facing. Thank you in advance!
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