Hi!
Me and my partner are currently going through a lot. What started with a lot of passion and deep connection is now barely functions.
We had our issues, as well as a lot of external factors such as covid, lockdown, me losing the business and going trough a lengthy clinical depression, and now it’s the war (we are from Ukraine). Because of it we’re separated physically at the moment, each doing our part to end it asap.
Please suggest something we can read together that can help us recognize our emotions and maybe direct us towards the path of either preserving/bringing back the passion or giving us peace with the fact that that’s alright and here’s how succsessful couples deal with it.
We are looking in the same direction of working it out, because we both feel that on the paper we have all the neccessary fundamentals to have a close and strong relations and be a family… again.
Looking forward to your suggestions, thank you in advance!
by iDarick
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Well you guys are certainly in a really tough situation and on every level I hope things work out well for you quickly.
Given the particulars of your strains, I’m not sure that “traditional” relationship advice will cover everything you’re going though, but I do suspect that a lot of that will give a good foundation for you to build from.
To that end, I think one book that’s widely recommended is [The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work](https://www.gottman.com/product/the-seven-principles-for-making-marriage-work/) from John Gottman, who is one of the world’s foremost researchers on relationships.