Hi! This might not be the right subreddit to ask, but I’m unsure about the big psychology subreddits where it’s more about sharing links etc. Maybe someone still has an idea here.
I’m looking for a book to help me with the following: After 7 years of marriage and a painful breakup, I’m now taking baby steps into dating. Or so I thought. I met someone and it sent me into a wild, very uncomfortable roller-coaster ride where I would obsess about him, check my whatsapp all the time, daydream about him and neglect my everyday tasks. We almost ended up in bed some days ago and decided both that we want to take a little break to take it slow.
Unfortunately, I see a lot of old patterns here. Basically, I’d call it dysfunctional bonding behavior. Rushed physical intimacy, oversharing trauma, too many messages, obsessive thoughts and general clingyness. Could be because of an anxious attachment style, not sure.
I want to replace this behavior with functional and respectful habits.
I have had good experiences with psychological working books. They helped me work with emotional regulation, anger issues and other things. Exercises are a must.
So, I’m looking for a book with explanations and exercises that could help me with my current matter (I’m not sure what to call this problem).
Sorry if this is the wrong place to ask this question.
Peace.
by suffraghetti