Hello!! im looking for a psychology book because i have an extremely weird perception of relationships (marriages specifically) whenever i see someone who is married i automatically assume that it is abusive or that atleast one of them is unhappy
i only realized that i thought this way recently when a work friend of my father was treating his wife well infront of me while no one is around, and i kid you not i literally felt like that was “weird” LIKE WHAT??? ……anyways soon after, i realized that this was because my parents were always in an abusive relationship(extremely toxic & traumatic);
and this reminded me of how in the book “the body keeps the score” the author gave the example of those electrified dogs; basically it talked about if they electrify dogs in a cage (while the door is locked for long enough) and then they add another set of dogs put them also to get electrified (while opening the door this time for both sets of dogs) only the dogs who got electrified for the first time would run away through the door while the dogs who got electrified before just stayed and whimpered in their place while the door was wide open.
So i think that this may be the exact same situation with me? i have gotten so accustomed to my parents marriage being abusive that i just think all husbands beat their wives and traumatize them. and this has actually ruined my life 💀 any thoughts of marrying someone actually repulses me and make me a bit sick in the stomach.
i want a psychology book that will help this problem? something along the lines of helping me not precieve the world as just my traumatic experiences everywhere. thanks!!
by Fine-Spread-4655