Hi!
Since I was young (in my 30s now), I’ve only ever known my parents to argue and hate each other. My dad is a verbally abusive (only to my mom, never to my brother and I) alcoholic with a short temper, and my mom is a kind hearted, emotional woman who finally had enough and started arguing back. Our household was very tense and angry as soon as my dad got home every night.
My whole childhood and into adulthood they’ve hated each other. They never got a divorce because my mom needed to be a stay at home mom so she never was able to start a career again. But I wish they would have.
They were incredibly loving to my brother and I- we could tell my mom anything and my dad took the role of the provider. We were never neglected and from a parent standpoint, they were great. One of the worst parts though is not having a healthy example of a marriage.
Now that I’m an adult, I feel myself shutting my emotions off to loved ones. I’ll share more with my friends, but I tend to internalize and deal with my problems myself instead of confiding in my partner. Besides talking to my therapist, I also would love to read a book or two on how to cope with this sort of thing. Can anyone else relate/suggest a book on this?
TLDR; are there any books (besides “adult children of emotionally immature parents”) y’all suggest for this sort of thing?
by akw_tx