Hi gang,
Ex wife had an awful affair. I was suspicious for almost 12 months until I confirmed it with hard evidence. A lot of lies, wasn’t in a great place during that period.
Took some time after separation, felt good, then entered a new relationship – caring, secure and loving. Unfortunately on her side some things genuinely began to consume her life, leaving her less able to be as available or responsive to me.
Despite knowing what she was dealing with, my imagination filled the silence with irrational beliefs that she was being unfaithful. It left me anxious as hell, and hyper focused on it. Unhealthily I ended up accusing her. We agreed to break it off as I couldn’t get past it, she could deal with her things in peace and I could go concentrate on some counseling.
I know this one was my issue so I need to address it.
I’m a reader, so I’m looking for books about over coming betrayal trauma or similar topics. Most of what I’ve found has to do with people staying in a relationship after an affair… Not what I’m after.
Let me know what you’ve got!
Thanks
by DontEnjoyBoats