Please recommend me a book about conscientiously managing anger

I like to think about things politically and theoretically, and so, I’d like a book that acknowledges the social utility of anger, but also encourages against and defines its inappropriate usage. I don’t want a book that argues against any and all expressions of anger and demonized those who feel it.

I spoke with aggression in what I thought to be in defense of queer people in a recent discussion and I don’t feel good about it.

I like bell hooks and love her approachable but grounded in social theory writings, and so something like that would be preferred.

Thanks!

by Synappze