Looking for a self-help style book that focuses on saving yourself while navigating a painful relationship with an absent and neglectful husband. Coping with him being an absent father and husband and refusing to change.
I have been recommended Why Does He Do That? And coming from a physically abusive household growing up, I worry that book will focus more on the obvious abuse like my childhood experience and less about the subtleties of dealing with men who devalue or emotionally abandon their families and recognizing if that is a different type of abuse.
Sorry for the heavy topic , any recommendations are greatly appreciated in advance.
by chommpy
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Why Does He Do That? is the book you’re looking for. It’s not just about physical abuse, it’s mostly about emotional abuse and behaviors. He talks about 10 different types of abusers and which ones (2 of them) are more likely than the others to become physically abusive. But that’s not the main focus.
Why Does He Do That? covers emotional abuse, too.
I suggest these books:
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship by Beverly Engel
Running on Empty by Dr. Jonice Webb
Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff
Should I Stay or Should I Go? by Lundy Bancroft